Lily Russell knows she is Chinese and that she came from China, but for several years the 8-year-old didn’t think anything of it. Lily was certain that all babies came from China.”She just thought that is how you get a baby,” says Beth Russell, Lily’s mother. “She even asked me if I had a big tummy when I went to China to get her. But when she went with us to China for the second adoption and saw the process, it was put into perspective and was a bit like finding out Santa Claus doesn’t exist.”
Today, Russell says Lily, who was adopted from an orphanage in China when she was 13 months old, doesn’t want to deal with the fact that the two are not biologically related and that they are different.
“She will ask when she is ready,” Russell says.
There is just so much wrong with this article. It’s outrageously one-sided and is yet another example of adoptive white parents speaking for us while patting themselves on the back. The fact that EastWest targets a primarily AA audience makes this feel like a double slap in the face.
Anita Malik has responded to comments so hopefully from now on, we’ll see something a little more balanced and less AP-framed. Feel free to leave a comment to keep the dialogue going.
One of the things that irritates me the most is that so many TRAs have worked so hard to get our voices out there. For every one of our voices, I see ten others like the ones in this article. It’s as if we’re constantly being shouted down, as if we’re still children.
It was my hope that with the increasing amount of TRA authored material out there, we’d see more weight given to our perspectives. Guess we just need to shout a little louder.
Also check out the post at Resist Racism and resistance’s thoughts on the article. Very informative and insightful as always!
Might have to do a post involving this subject later. Hmmm…