“cornerstone” by sume
I am afraid
“You can trust us. We’re family.”
that I will lose myself again.
“Come home.”
Rescued from circumstances beyond my control,
“We’ll help you work it out.”
knowing everything will change,
“You should be here.”
will my identity remain intact?“
“You’re one of us.”
Friend: Is it okay if I ask you about your adoption? I just didn’t want to intrude if you don’t want to talk about it… might be a sensitive topic.
Me: Okay.
Friend: Why did your mother relinquish you and then have your sister afterward?
Me: *explains*
Friend: OHHHH!
Me: Mmm. Sometimes I think it should be me there instead of her… like she’s taken over my role in that household…
Friend: I can see how you would perceive it that way. It’s understandable. But you have a good life here, so why worry about that?
Me: I don’t think it was Fate I ended up here. I do not think that “Fate” wanted my mother to suffer just for my adoption to occur.
Friend: I don’t know, I’m a bit hesitant on the Fate issue. Even if it wasn’t Fate, who knows what would have happened to you? At least you have a good family here.
Me: *sigh* Never mind.
And this is a fine example of the work we can produce. Well done.
Hi Sume,
Don’t know if you have heard of Me ? or the Organisation I belong to and work with / for…..But I have My Own Thoughts when it comes to Vietnamese Adoptees, and the Thoughts you may be feelng hear but sadlt not being heard……..and they are different to what you or Kevin might call the ‘ Mainstream Thought ‘. I have listened , observed and Learnt from the Adoptees that I know and deal with and NOT so much to what the Adopters say.
If you want to talk more about it or just listen, here or Privately I would be Happy to Listen in Confidence.
Peter.
PS Don’t know what Bryan Means ?
Hi Peter. Yes, I’ve heard of you and have two of my photos in one of your flickr streams. Thank you for your offer. Fortunately, I have a very strong support system that does more than suffice.
It would be interesting to hear about the things you’ve learned/observed. I’m a bit pre-occupied at the moment and am a bit slow to respond some days, but feel free to leave comment.
Bryan, I believe, is giving me props for my art. However, only Bryan knows what Bryan really means.