Comments on: The blindfold of “colorblind” Pt. 1 http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/ Born in Sài Gòn, Việt Nam in 1970, now living in the US as a claimed and renamed TRA Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:14:47 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: From AntiRacistParent.com « Bring Home Lulu - our Vietnam adoption http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-3195 From AntiRacistParent.com « Bring Home Lulu - our Vietnam adoption Mon, 30 Apr 2007 15:04:51 +0000 http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-3195 [...] The blindfold of “colorblind” Pt.1 - Ethnically Incorrect Daughter“As I’ve mentioned many times before, my family practiced a kind ofcolorblindness when it came to me. I guess they figured if they didn’t“see” my color, no one else would. The problem is that other people didnotice and on occasion, made it very clear. Try as I might, myblindfold didn’t fit quite as snuggly as that worn by my adoptivefamily.”   [...] [...] The blindfold of “colorblind” Pt.1 – Ethnically Incorrect Daughter“As I’ve mentioned many times before, my family practiced a kind ofcolorblindness when it came to me. I guess they figured if they didn’t“see” my color, no one else would. The problem is that other people didnotice and on occasion, made it very clear. Try as I might, myblindfold didn’t fit quite as snuggly as that worn by my adoptivefamily.”   [...]

]]> By: sume http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-2932 sume Fri, 13 Apr 2007 05:21:08 +0000 http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-2932 Well Llewis, you know what they say about opinions. As far as I remember, I have never claimed that my view is the only fair way to look at it. As many of my long-time readers can attest, I have always very flatly and clearly stated that I only represent myself AND that what I offer is perspective. I have also stated bluntly that I have no answers. To be honest, I think you're being pretty judgmental and lacking an open heart yourself, not to mention making a lot of assumptions based on one or a few blog posts. But I guess that just comes with the territory. As a friend of mine often says, "Hazards of the industry." Well Llewis, you know what they say about opinions. As far as I remember, I have never claimed that my view is the only fair way to look at it. As many of my long-time readers can attest, I have always very flatly and clearly stated that I only represent myself AND that what I offer is perspective. I have also stated bluntly that I have no answers.

To be honest, I think you’re being pretty judgmental and lacking an open heart yourself, not to mention making a lot of assumptions based on one or a few blog posts. But I guess that just comes with the territory. As a friend of mine often says, “Hazards of the industry.”

]]> By: Llewis http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-2916 Llewis Thu, 12 Apr 2007 14:34:24 +0000 http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-2916 Although I found your comments interesting, being multi racial and adopted into a Caucasion family myself, I feel completely clear that your view, is not the only fair way to look at it. To be honest, I think you are pretty judgemental and lacking an open heart. Personally I don't view my family as not completely well meaning in thier attempt to raise me "color-blind"; I think it shows maturity and depth and naivete, they thought of me as thier daughter, whatever my skin. Also they didn't have the privilage that our generation, has, in terms of new studies and fields of interest re; ethnicity. Its not all about race, its about intention and giving people credit. If some people adopt non white children and want to wait until the kids ask, to address it, that is not necessarily racist or wrong... just because you have a problem with it, doesn't mean its a problem, I didnt.....I dont think this blog is beautiful, I think it is masquerading a lot of self-absorbed judgment and you don't speak for anyone but yourself. Although I found your comments interesting, being multi racial and adopted into a Caucasion family myself, I feel completely clear that your view, is not the only fair way to look at it. To be honest, I think you are pretty judgemental and lacking an open heart. Personally I don’t view my family as not completely well meaning in thier attempt to raise me “color-blind”; I think it shows maturity and depth and naivete, they thought of me as thier daughter, whatever my skin. Also they didn’t have the privilage that our generation, has, in terms of new studies and fields of interest re; ethnicity.

Its not all about race, its about intention and giving people credit. If some people adopt non white children and want to wait until the kids ask, to address it, that is not necessarily racist or wrong… just because you have a problem with it, doesn’t mean its a problem, I didnt…..I dont think this blog is beautiful, I think it is masquerading a lot of self-absorbed judgment and you don’t speak for anyone but yourself.

]]> By: Recommended reading at Anti-Racist Parent - for parents committed to raising children with an anti-racist outlook http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-2885 Recommended reading at Anti-Racist Parent - for parents committed to raising children with an anti-racist outlook Tue, 10 Apr 2007 12:01:24 +0000 http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-2885 [...] The blindfold of “colorblind” Pt.1 - Ethnically Incorrect Daughter “As I’ve mentioned many times before, my family practiced a kind of colorblindness when it came to me. I guess they figured if they didn’t “see” my color, no one else would. The problem is that other people did notice and on occasion, made it very clear. Try as I might, my blindfold didn’t fit quite as snuggly as that worn by my adoptive family.” [...] [...] The blindfold of “colorblind” Pt.1 – Ethnically Incorrect Daughter “As I’ve mentioned many times before, my family practiced a kind of colorblindness when it came to me. I guess they figured if they didn’t “see” my color, no one else would. The problem is that other people did notice and on occasion, made it very clear. Try as I might, my blindfold didn’t fit quite as snuggly as that worn by my adoptive family.” [...]

]]> By: sume http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-2879 sume Mon, 09 Apr 2007 22:32:53 +0000 http://ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/the-blindfold-of-colorblind-pt-1/#comment-2879 Thanks everyone for taking the time to comment. My apologies again for taking so long to reply. Jae Ran thanks for the book mentions! They sound like something I'd love to read. Ji-in, it's interesting to delve into all the survival mechanisms that we've developed. Lately, I've been looking more closely many of them and how we apply them. Will make for some challenging blog posts, but it's an area I can't help but explore. Safiya, don't mind at all. Thanks. I remember hearing about Trivium before. *cough not that listen to that kind of music *grin But it must have slipped my mind that Matt was AA. RogueQueen, it's always encouraging to know that adoptive parents are reading and listening to us. This is a whole other blogpost that I've been working on, but it's not that I see adoptive parents as enemies. My view is never so black and white or polarized as that. What I do insist upon though, is that I will speak as honestly and well..as bluntly as possible. I can't speak for everyone else. However, in a time when we are still being dismissed and/or pegged as anomalies, I think it's important that we speak loudly and forcefully in order to get our point across. But that's just me. For me, it's not about being against adoptive parents but about being an advocate for the many TRAs out there. Therein lies a difference. vnbya, always nice to hear from you. Nah, it would be contradictory of me to knock taking on those things by individual choice minus the exoticism and fetishizing (not sure if that's even a word). I think my case was a bit extreme though and not very healthy as I went from one kind of denial into another. Hope all of you are doing well out there! Mia, many thanks for once again chiming in and pointing out where our experiences are similar. When I read your blog, I'm often nodding my head and thinking, "Yes! Exactly!" I'm so glad you're out there! Thanks everyone for taking the time to comment. My apologies again for taking so long to reply.

Jae Ran thanks for the book mentions! They sound like something I’d love to read.

Ji-in, it’s interesting to delve into all the survival mechanisms that we’ve developed. Lately, I’ve been looking more closely many of them and how we apply them. Will make for some challenging blog posts, but it’s an area I can’t help but explore.

Safiya, don’t mind at all. Thanks. I remember hearing about Trivium before. *cough not that listen to that kind of music *grin But it must have slipped my mind that Matt was AA.

RogueQueen, it’s always encouraging to know that adoptive parents are reading and listening to us. This is a whole other blogpost that I’ve been working on, but it’s not that I see adoptive parents as enemies. My view is never so black and white or polarized as that. What I do insist upon though, is that I will speak as honestly and well..as bluntly as possible.

I can’t speak for everyone else. However, in a time when we are still being dismissed and/or pegged as anomalies, I think it’s important that we speak loudly and forcefully in order to get our point across. But that’s just me.

For me, it’s not about being against adoptive parents but about being an advocate for the many TRAs out there. Therein lies a difference.

vnbya, always nice to hear from you. Nah, it would be contradictory of me to knock taking on those things by individual choice minus the exoticism and fetishizing (not sure if that’s even a word). I think my case was a bit extreme though and not very healthy as I went from one kind of denial into another.

Hope all of you are doing well out there!

Mia, many thanks for once again chiming in and pointing out where our experiences are similar. When I read your blog, I’m often nodding my head and thinking, “Yes! Exactly!” I’m so glad you’re out there!

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