When Michele Zembow, 45 and single, adopted a 15- month-old girl, Kaydi, from China five years ago, the two fell in love instantly.
"I had an anxious type of depression," said Zembow, a psychologist in Maplewood, New Jersey. "I felt like I had this romanticized, idealized version of what it would be like that was not at all true."
Many adoptive parents feel delirious with happiness when bringing home their child. Yet for some, this joy can be short-lived and dissolve into what experts call post-adoption depression. For some, it is simply a low mood, for others a full-fledged plunge into despair. Post-adoption depression is recognized among adoption professionals, but there is no research on the syndrome. It is not adequately addressed by many adoption agencies, say experts, and is not widely understood by the public, including those who embark on adoption.
On one hand this leaves me screamng, "Again, it's about you! Welcome to reality." And she's a psychologist. Hmmm… On the other hand, it just goes to show you what a poor job of preparation adoption agencies, society and some aparents themselves do when it comes to the realities of adoption.
I could rant but I'll save it for another day. Really though, who ends up the real loser here if aparents fail to get it together? So much for better off.